ON HER FILMS (more quotes about films can be read in the
individual filmography pages)
"Everybody is obsessed with Bewitched. I get asked so many
questions about it. I'm glad. It's fun. It's a lot of fun. Will
Ferrell is just a sweetheart."
[On Dogville] "One day it would be a fairytale, the next it was
a nightmare. Lars was gentle with me - he was gentle and soft,
then he would beat me up emotionally when he felt he needed
that. I did not always register what was happening until
afterwards but you shouldn't have too much awareness as an
actor, I don't think."
"When I heard about the Suzanne role in To Die For, I thought,
'I'll never get it - it'll be offered to someone else.' So I
called Gus [Van Sant] at home, and he took my call, thank God. I
told him I'd seen Drugstore Cowboy, and I really wanted to work
with him. I said I was destined to work with him."
"There is a beautiful line in the script about how the dead
gives us gifts. And for me, Virginia gave me a gift. That’s
what’s quite strange about the whole experience: At that time in
my life I needed her. I needed to play her." - On playing
"It [the Portrait of a Lady] taught me to aprroach life seeking
honesty and not to fear emotion. A lot of the time you walk
around thinking 'I've got to be together, I've got to be sane.'
Isabel says 'if i feel upset, I'm going to cry.'"
"Henry James and Jane Campion taught me something about myself
that it's alright to be emotional and vulnerable and all those
things that lead you to a deeper understanding of yourself."
"There's no drugs, no Tom in a dress, no psychiatrists." [on
Eyes Wide Shut]
"I remember finishing the film being more exhausted than I'd
ever been in my life. Creatively, I didn't want to make a movie
again after I'd finished this one" [on Moulin Rouge]
"The Others feels like forbidden fruit for me in a way. I was in
Batman Forever, but I've never had my movie be a hit movie. It
gives me power now to do something else a little bit offbeat,
and they'll finance it. I'm surprised at it's success. I just
thought I was making this strange atmospheric little thriller
with dark undertones" [on The Others]
ON HER CAREER
"I had a really good response over there (America). They're
into Australian girls at the moment. They just find us very
strange, apparantly. I suppose we're a bit rougher round the
edges and a lot more laid back."
"With every character, you alter, you can’t be attached to your
"You get asked the same things over and over. Just once I'd love
to be asked about my work. You know, my future projects,
something like that."
"Acting for me is not a business, it's about trying to make
pieces of art that I believe that I feel proud of. And it's the
journey of that. There is no drive behind that. It's an
acceptance of what my life is and that's being an actress and
somebody who loves what they get to do. And they do it whether
you pay me which sometimes happens. Or whether you don't pay me
which also happens. I am dedicated to it."
"You want to take some responsibility in your choices so that it
sets the groundwork for that next generation of actresses - so
for me doing Lars von Trier, I would hope that says to another
generation: 'go and seek out those directors, it's ok'."
"These different people that I play become the loves of my
"Why do a crappy film role when you can do a meaty stage role?
and ...I'm not small and curvy and I don't fit the prerequiste
for small, passive, sexy chicks."
"I love acting but I don't like all of the other stuff
associated with it. The interest in celebrities, the press, the
Internet, when your identity becomes mixed up in the way people
are preceving you."
ON HER PARENTS
"My mother was a strong feminist and a tough lady, and my
father always used the phrase when we were growing up: 'With
love, but firm'. Believe me, I grew up with all the rules and
guidelines and boundaries. My sister and I were only allowed to
watch half an hour of television a day!"
"They came close to divorce many times, so yelling and screaming
that it's all over-none of that scares me. My mother moved out
once, I think, for a couple of weeks, so I don't have a fear of
people not coming back."
"I adore her for her intelligence, her wit and what she gave up
to help me and my sister. She worked through our childhood but
she was always there for us and gave us a great education and
belief in our own power" [on her mother Janelle]
"My parents were always extremely suportive. They allowed me any
artistic outlet I wanted."
"Each weekend I'd go to the theatre at Phillip Street. I used to
just lock myself in there for the whole weekend. I thought it
was fantastic. I'd be teased a lot though, because I'd be going
off to the theatre instead of going to the beach with the boys
and all the girls. I felt like an outsider because of that."
"All the other mums would make these beautiful little
sandwiches, but my daddy would just put a slab of butter on top
of the bread and then say: 'Whatddaya want-peanut butter?'
Wouldn't cut it and would't wrap it properly, so by the time you
opened it at school it was all stale, and all the kids would
"He ran 8 miles at lunchtime, and I used to get terribly
embarrassed when the kids at school saw him running, as he'd be
all sweaty and look like hell."
"He has brought me up to believe in certain issues, definite
values. He encouraged me to find time off by myself to meditate
every day. He swears by that." [on her father Antony]
"He would take me to modern dance - I'd be sitting next to my
dad and fully- grown men would be walking around, totally naked.
My parents overeducated me- my sister and I were so
embarrassed." [on her father Antony]
ON HER CHILDHOOD
"I learned to cross my eyes at school. In Australia you all
sit on a mat while the teacher writes on the blackboard. We'd
get so bored, we'd have eye- crossing competitions. I got quite
good at it."
"I was doing ballet clases at four, and I have always loved
"I was one of those terrible kids who said everyone's lines"
[Nicole about her first role at the age of five]
"I wanted to be one of the lambs, because that was the comedy
part. When Mary was rocking the baby Jesus, I went 'Baaaa, baaaa,
baaaa', and of course everyone was in hysterics! This stupid kid
trying to upstage Jesus as a sheep! I got laugh and that was it.
I thought, 'Wow-this is fun!'"
"There has always been conversation over the dinner table and I
have always been encouraged to question. That's great for an
"At home I was always been taught to demand a lot of myself, and
I think that stands you in good stead."
"When I was growing up in Australia , the beautiful look was
straight blonde hair and olive skin. I was fair-skinned redhead.
I used to pray for God to gave me tanned skin but if I tried to
tan, I'd go red and peel. So I had to put zinc oxide on my nose,
wear sun hats and cover up."
"My curly hair embarrased me. I'd spend ages trying to blow-dry
"It is character-building not to be a pretty chikd. You can't
rely on batting your eyelashes and saying, 'Please can I have
this?' You develop other strengths."
"Theatre was a place where I could go and just be somebody else.
I was like, 'I hate who I am, I hate how I look, I hate how I
feel with all these hormones racing through my body.'"
"I loved the show. I grew up watching the show; that's why I
wanted to do it. [It was on in Australia at] 6 o'clock every
weeknight for many, many years. I've seen almost every episode."
"Even though nobody in my family acted, I think we are all
performers in one way or another. We all like to express
"My parents thought it was nice to develop my imagination, but
they never seriously thought that anything would ever come of
it. They said that I couldn't be an actress because I would be
taller than all my leading men, so I thought I would be a writer
"By the time I was a teenager, I had developed skills as a
writer, and my father encouraged me to think about a career in
journalism. I began keeping a diary, which I maintain to this
day. I used to fill whole notebooks with my writings."
"Catholicism will keep me going. I'm a Catholic girl. It
will always stay with you."
"There is a little Buddhism, a little Scientology, I was raised
Catholic and a big part of me is still a Catholic girl. There
are still things that will stay with me for the rest of my life
in relation to my Catholicism, the tradition and ritual."
"It's so bizarre, I'm not scared of snakes or spiders. But I'm
scared of butterflies. There is something eerie about them.
"I would love to have boobs and a butt like Jennifer Lopez but
I'm not having surgery so there it is"
"I have a little bit of a belly, a tiny bit of pooch. It's the
one thing I don't want to lose. I just like having some
softness. If I lose that, then Tom might leave me."
"I worry about the children; I worry about their future. I worry
about my future. I’m quite a worrier. I can lie awake at night
and worry. I can wake up at 3:00 AM and not be able to get back
to sleep, that sort of thing."
"I had such admiration for people who can stand up and just get
by on pure charisma, because I certainly don’t have that."
"I am someone who likes to put her cards on the table. I like to
be able to talk to people about who I am, what I am, what I
experience. I like to be very open and free about all parts of
"To be an actor you have to have a certain amount of madness in
you. That's why, when people meet you and you seem very
together, they are quite surprised- they don't see you behind
the closed doors"
"It was very natural for me to want to disappear into dark
theatre, I am really very shy. That is something that people
never seem to fully grasp because, when you are an actor, you
are meant to be an exhibitionist."
"They've said I'm gay, they've said everyone is gay. I
personally don't believe in doing huge lawsuits about that
stuff. Tom does. That's what he wants to do, that's what he's
going to do. You do not tell Tom what to do. He is a force to be
reckoned with. "I have a different approach. I don't file
lawsuits because I really don't care. Honestly, people have said
everything under the sun. I just want to do my work, raise my
kids, and hopefully find somebody who I can share my life with
"Even from a very early age, I knew I didn't want to miss
out on anything life had to offer just because it might be
"I think that you have to live life to the full, otherwise you
have nothing to draw on."
"Whatever you do in life, don't give up on your own dreams."
"To live a really full life, you must stay open."
"If you enter the dark side of life, and come through it, you
emerge with more strength and passion."
"I believe the experiences of life are more important than any
film you make."
"The thing for this year is live for the moment, live for the
"Anything that involves suffering or pain, makes you a wiser
person. You acquire compassion, understanding."
"Move forward one day at a time, keep smiling, and remeber that
tomorrow is another day."
"Do you know I'm always scared that one day I'll look back and
say 'God they were the best years of my life and now what?'
There are moments when you feel as if you have been blessed for
a while, moments when you think this is perfect, moments when
you start to believe that even for an hour, even for a year-it
might all happen... So I'm determined to keep making it get
better and better."
"The power of work, and the power of creativity, can be your
"When you reliquish the desire to control your future, you can
have more happiness."
"I think it's important that we don't all have to hold our heads
high all the time saying everything's fine."
"Know that you're capable of so much more than you can ever
imagine. I think if you want things (for the right reasons),
then they will come to you. Anything is possible."
"I do believe in lust at first sight. And then i think
you're very lucky when that evolves into something a lot deeper.
Lust and love somehow combined, I feel is the best thing for a
"I think you know it's love when you're making sacrifices. When
you're willing to say this person is more to me than other
things. When it becomes about wanting the other person to have
everything that they want."
"Pain passes, but love remains, says so much about what I think
life is about."
"No matter what goes in your life or what experiences you had in
the past, you can always fall in love."
"It's a very brave thing to fall in love. You have to be willing
to trust somebody else with your whole being, and that's very
difficult, really difficult and very brave."
"I'm a person that carries everything that happened to me in my
past with me into the future. I refuse to let it make me bitter.
I still completely believe in love and I remain open to anything
that will happen to me."
ON HER CHILDREN AND PARENTHOOD
"Whether I gave a birth to a child or not, is not even an
element that exists now. If more are added to the family, more
will be, but that is a very personal thing. It isn't anybody
"You have those times when you say, 'I just want to curl up in a
ball and never get out of bed', and then you have a six-year-old
coming in and going, 'Where is the breakfast?'"
"It gives you a depth and selflessness that, particularly as an
actor, you just don't have. It does open a lot of feelings that
maybe you're not dealing with or maybe haven't realised were
inside you". [on parenthood]
ON HER FRIENDS
"When you're in your teens it's all, boys, boys, boys, but
ultimately you realise it's about taking care of your
girlfriends. They're the ones who are constant. Boys come and
go, but the girls, they stay. And thats why you should
acknowledge friendships you cherish."
"Naomi actually dated my sister's first major boyfriend prior to
my sister. Then we met at some casting call, but I knew of Naomi
because she was always the pretty one. I would see her at the
Oaks, a pub in Sydney, and look across and she was just
gorgeous." [about Naomi Watts]
"We always say to Rebecca that she is the successful one because
she has the successful marriage with three kids. Becca's the
backbone, Naomi's the extrovert, and I'm the screwup. I'm the
quieter one, the one that's sort of straighter, but I can be led
astray. Naomi is the most gregarious She's the one that will
dance on tables. I always say that all of this comes and goes
and in the end you want to be old women and you want to look
each other in the eyes and say 'I know you. We've stayed
friends. I've seen so many things happen and I love you.' That's
what I search for in friendships and that's the common thread
through all of us. There's an honesty. We age together, we watch
each other become wiser and stronger, and we see each other's
frailities, prop each other up and support each other."
ON OTHER CELEBRITIES
"He is a total pleasure to work with. He put me at my ease
and made me laugh. Now I'm seriously thinking of getting a
tattoo like his." - on Robbie Williams
"It was fun. I think Robbie is very talented." - on Robbie
"Robbie is a sweet soul and a great singer. His version of Mr
Bojangles made me cry." - on Robbie Williams
"Robbie and I have become good friends and that's all. It's not
what people might think, but Robbie is irresistible because he
is so much fun to be around. He's a very funny man. He also
gives me amazing confidence. I usually get frightened when I'm
singing because I'm worried about my voice. I always feel like
it's going to let me down, but he just threw away my fears with
his enthusiasm and encouragement. I've been breaking through my
fears a lot this year and Robbie has helped me do that."
"Dating Robbie? Who said that? I’m also dating about five other
people. He’s actually very sweet and very shy and I’m very shy
so you have two very shy people. Was he predatory and pushy? Not
at all. He was a perfect gentleman. Maybe I don’t know enough
about his reputation. But I take people at face value. He’s been
charming and good to me - and that’s all."
ON TOM CRUISE AND HER FIRST MARRIAGE
"Now I can wear heels." - commenting on her break-up with
Tom Cruise - August 2001
"I wouldn't want to be married to me, but luckily he does."
"I'm starting to understand now. At the time, I didn't." [when
asked (in 2002) about her divorce]
"He is kind of wild, and I love that."
"Tom's not gay, to my knowledge. I can assure you my husband is
no monk. He's the best lover I've ever had and he's a very
"When I first moved to America, I was madly in love, following
my heart and willing to throw caution into the wind, which is
how I live my life."
"I was willing to give up everything ... The marriage existed
because it was two people in love. It's that simple ... He
basically swept me off my feet. I fell madly, passionately in
"Every day there is a compromise. Living with somebody requires
a lot of understanding. But I love being married. I really love
it. Sometimes I try to downplay it a bit because people are
like, 'God you guys.' I just feel so fortunate that I have found
someone who will put up with me and stay with me." - on her
marriage to Tom Cruise - August 2000
ON EVERYTHING ELSE
"I've never been so excited to have people walk all over me
for the rest of my life" - When receiving her star on the
Hollywood Walk Of Fame, January 2003
"There seems to be so much relevance attached to success and
money. It's about creatively being satiated and being able to
go, I've made some movies that I'm really proud of. I've existed
in the world in a way that I've wanted to exist. I've been a
parent as good as I can be, because it's riddled with guilt. And
I've loved, and I've been emotionally involved in the world. The
success is ultimately your connections with people - who you
have in your life that loves you and you love."
"I loved Madonna. At the time I was a teenager going to clubs
and listening to her music. She was our heroine. It’s so great
that Britney Spears is now paying homage to her."
"When the idea finally hits, it goes down your arm into your
hand through your fingers into the pen and on to the page
rapidly" [from The Hours DVD commentary]
"When I see a guy going out with a taller girl I immediately
like him . It shows he's confident."
"Free fall parachute jumping-there is nothing like it when you
are up there at 14,000 feet with the cold air hitting your face.
It is an amazing sansation-not as good as sex, but almost! You
actually fall for about forty- five seconds."
"In the weirdest way, it has opened me up. I have carried the
thought with me that whatever happens in the future, it won't
get much worse than this. I have had my life turned over. I am
dinner-party gossip. I get looked at and talked about. I get
embarrassed, but I throw it aside and try not to be. My whole
life has been spent trying to push through and beat such
things." [on her divorce]
OTHERS SAID ABOUT NICOLE
"Nicole is nurturing by instinct, loyal beyond question, wise
beyond her years. Her friendship is a constant gift of joy.
Since I’ve known her I've always put her on a pedestal, not
because she is untouchable, simply because she deserves my
respect, for the bravery she applies to her work and the
thoroughness with which she attends to life." - Russell Crowe
"You used to be my secret, my dirty little secret. There was a
time when I was the only one who knew how great you were, but
you've been giving so many wonderfull performances, now the
whole world knows. The secret is out. Here's another secret
folks. This is just the beginning... There is even more
greatness to come. You are the princess and I am but a member of
your audience." - Russell Crowe
"Being around Nicole is like being around electricity." - Baz
"It's like Sleeping Beauty. You feel that she's awoken, not from
something terrible, but you feel she's in full bloom. You look
at Nicole and see this woman in full possession of her power as
an actress, her sexuality, and her sense of self. And it came
out of the chrysalis of that experience." - Baz Luhrmann
"I like that mischievous, pixieish thing that she has. You know
how some people, when you're around them, they make you feel
more alive? That is her great gift. There's an old Australian
expression - 'You wouldn't be dead for quids." It means no money
on earth could substitute for the joy of life. She loves being
alive." - Sam Neill
"She's an unusually intelligent and strong woman. We inspired
each other creatively. I count her as one of my true friends."-
(Good Housekeeping Magazine May/June 2003) [Interviewer]"You've
got two movies coming out before the end of the year. You've
just made Cold Mountain with Nicole Kidman and Jude Law. Having
worked with Nicole, how did you feel when she won the Oscar for
Best Actress this year?"
[Renee] "I really felt like all the women there that night were
girlfriends of mine, and I really love Nicole. We had a good
time working in freezing cold Romania together. She's just so
kind, and when she laughs, it's the most wonderful thing in the
world, because she becomes like a little girl. [Joking] It's
just a shame she's so unattractive, you know?" - Renee Zellweger
"When I was told I was meeting Nicole Kidman ... I was like,
‘How am I going to get through this and not look like an idiot
or try to lick her face? But we got on really well and chatted
and I just had a real blast with her." - Robbie Williams
"Nicole has a beautiful voice. I heard her sing in Moulin Rouge
and I asked if she would be interested, fully expecting to be
knocked back - she's a proper Hollywood star. But she said yes.
I was amazed and thrilled." - Robbie Williams
"She remains the same unspoiled and most professional person she
always was-never forgetting firends and colleagues." - Director
Denny Lawrence on how fame has never changed Nicole's life.
"She's wildly alive and great fun and hugely loving and wants to
go tothe party and dance all night" - Michael Cunningham, author
of The Hours
"Underneath Nicole Kidman is just a fun-loving Aussie girl who
just happens to be famous." - Iain Glen, co-star of The Blue
"She is so elegant and at the same time is very human with a
delicious sense of humour. Oh, a great sense of humour. You can
tell she loves to laugh and laughs well." - AC Lyles, AMPAS
"Every day I am with her, I still have this magnetic attraction
to her-I can't keep my hands off her." - Tom Cruise about Nicole
"Nicole and I are forever. Our ties are strong, deep...it was
love at first sight. Since we married 10 years ago we've stayed
totally in love with each other. When I am with her I know that
fairytales exist." - Tom Cruise, March 2001
"I'm the guy, the lucky guy." - Tom on being married to Nicole,
"Nicole was a very striking girl, but then there were a number
of talented young girls at the school at that time" - Janet
Grace, school librarian
"She's just one of these great women and she's always been
thought of as very classical and period, and a highly serious
trained actress. She is all that, but she's also hilariously
funny so I loved playing with that surprise" - Griffin Dunne
(Practical Magic director)
"I know when I was writing Dead Calm I kept saying "Nicole for
the lead role". I think they were all thinking "Oh, he's fallen
in love with her." Well it's not true, but I did feel very
protective towards her". - Terry Hayes, who co-wrote Vietnam,
and Dead Calm
"She never stopped working and getting inside her character's
head. You look at some of these people and wonder why they have
done so well. With Nicole, it was clear. She has all the talent,
but never lets it get in the way of hard work. She's also
down-to-earth and could tell jokes very easily. The film crew
fell in love with her." - Viggo Mortensen, Nicole's Portrait of
A Lady co-star
"She's one of those actresses whom you're slightly in awe of.
You imagine her as the movie star from the front covers of
magazines, that she's untouchable and that somehow gets in the
way of her being human and funny. But she really is good fun.
You meet her and discover she's just funny and girly. She's
really giggly and you can make her laugh - a lot! I'd be very
rude in front of her, swear and belch, and she'd say "Ew-an! -
like a big sister with her younger brother." - Ewan McGregor
"I put her on a level with Hattie Jacques." - Eric Sykes,
Nicole's The Others co-star
“Nicole was very much on my side. So they couldn’t really carve
a wedge between myself and her. She was the shield; even though
she didn’t have to say anything, she was there." - Jonathan
Glazer, (Birth director)
"I didn't send her the script. She read it through another route
and called me up about it. I was resistant to the idea. I didn't
want all the stuff that comes with her. Her celebrity is so
everywhere that I thought it could only hurt the delicate nature
of this character. But, when I met her, that all went away. She
was ready to inhabit the role. I could see it, I could smell it
off her." - Jonathan Glazer, about Birth
“There was no politics with Nicole. She’s a really good actress
and she commits herself to whatever she’s doing, so the
relationship with her was easy. I never felt that star power
going on. It’s only when you look around at the people standing
off-camera that you realise it’s a different scale. I was
initially reluctant to work with her because of the expectations
that brings. But at the same time she was the best actress for
that role.." - Jonathan Glazer, (Birth director)
"Everything about Nicole is a plus in this. Her slight
aloofness, sometimes. The sense of privacy or aloneness, a
little bit of aristocracy that she has and a certain exoticness,
foreignness, for Americans anyway. She also provides a
believability that she would hold two passports and would be
quite international. They all seemed quite right for Nicole." -
Sydney Pollack on casting Nicole for The Interpreter
"She is that rare thing: a wonderfull actress, a wonderful soul
possessed of that skinlessness that the camera is that greedy
for, which allows us to glimps all of her frailties, her sarrows,
her joys, her good heart. She manages all of those things with
grace, style and an astonishing work ethic ... I marvel at her
... no writer or director could be more blessed then a journey
with her." - Anthony Minhella
"She is an amazing actress... When the camera starts rolling she
is extraordinary. Early on I realised she had an authority and a
sense of command astonishing in someone so young." - Robert
Benton (when directing her in Billy Bathgate)
"Nicole is an actress whose remarkable beauty and talent and
determitation has brought her the kind of success that only
comes in dreams." - Adrien Brody
"She has an insatiable appetite to explore new worlds and
characters. Her range is quite extroardinary. Nicole is a
powerful person in our industry." - Lauren Bacall
"I will always admire you, Nic. You have always blown me away
with your commitment to your art. You are an extroardinary
actor. With every preformence you get braver and braver, and you
continue to suprise all of us.... You have directors duelling
over you and producers crawling over broken glass begging you to
say yes." - Naomi Watts (American Cinematheque Award 2003)
"Nothing is as perfect as it seems, and you can look at one
'perfect' life and want for that, but it's just now how it is" -
Naomi Watts on Nicole's relationship with Tom Cruise
"People tend to see our friendship because of the work element,
and we were friends way before Hollywood came into the picture."
- Naomi Watts
"Whenever we get together for any length of time, we always end
up having a big fight, but it's always Nicole and me. Naomi's
not a fighter. She's a pacifist. It was always up to Naomi to
bring us back together. She's such a peacemaker at any cost.
Nicole nailed it when we had yet another big argument and she
said 'We are like the three sisters in Chekov.' It's always
going to be difficult and fraught with tension and, you know, by
turns absolutely rewarding and hilarious." - Rebecca Rigg
"I think Nicole is one of the most incandescent presences on the
screen. Ever. I really think she's an alien. She looks like it.
She can do anything. The woman is just ... there's something
about her that's otherworldly." - Shirley McLaine
“I’m a real fan, she’s in the Meryl Streep category, she’s that
good. She’s a very interesting person to observe if you’re a
student of human nature, which I am and she is. Almost not of
this world.” - Shirley McLaine
"The talented one that I’ve worked with recently, that I find
extraordinarily unworldly, is Nicole (Kidman). Now what happens
to her when she, at 5’11”, decides to eat a lot, which she does,
I don’t know. But her talent is there." - Shirley McLaine
"She is luminescent and one of the best actresses I've ever
worked with. She says she's waiting for someone to sweep her off
her feet. I mean, wow, when you have all that beauty, why would
you want anyone to give you directions for where to float?!" -